...instead of freeing women, the sexualization of culture has trapped young women in a double-bind: they must appear to be liberated and independent, while working daily to please their men...''But certainly the young women I have spoken to … aren't at all confident in negotiating sex. They still feel as though they have to meet the boyfriend's needs first before their own," she said. It seems that this is what it comes down to: how are women supposed to navigate a world where sex is highly visible, but still shrouded in a certain level of unreality? How does one be "sexy" when the messages are so mixed? Toy and Dana show us one side, yet there is another: the so-called "new prudishness." ... Ada Calhoun noted the backlash against promiscuity. Since then, the sides have been drawn with many women falling into one camp or the other. It's as though we're unconsciously dividing ourselves into the old Madonna/Whore categories, leaving little room for nuance. Instead of choosing sides...